Beverly Engel 
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship 
How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

‚Engel doesn’t just describe-she shows us the way out.‘

-Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the
emotionally abusive relationship

‚In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers
step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both
victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and
traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals
and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional
abuse.‘

-Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse

and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse

‚This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional
abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing
each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the
relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic
relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the
tools for change and really use them.‘

-Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook

and owner of BPDCentral.com

The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse
them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is
phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of
abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world’s
leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do
about it.

Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you
might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you
and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is
for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to
identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your
behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to
heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you
and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in
each other and stop the abuse.

By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help
themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop
abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert
guidance and support you need.

Inhaltsverzeichnis

Acknowledgments.

Introduction.

Part One: Identifying and Understanding Emotional Abuse.

1. Emotional Abuse?The Destroyer of Relationships.

2. Patterns of Abuse.

3. Not All Emotionally Abusive Relationships Are Alike.

4. Patterns That Begin in Childhood: Why We Abuse and Why We
Take It.

Part Two: Stopping the Abuse.

5. Action Steps for Those Being Abused.

6. Action Steps for the Abusive Partner.

7. Action Steps for the Abusive Couple.

8. When Your Partner Has a Personality Disorder.

9. When Your Abusiveness Stems from Your Personality
Disorder.

Part Three: Where Do You Go from Here?

10. Should You Stay or Should You Leave?

11. Preventing Emotional Abuse in the Future.

12. Continuing to Recover.

Epilogue.

References.

Further Reading.

Websites and Chat Rooms.

Index.

Über den Autor

BEVERLY ENGEL is an internationally recognized therapist
with an expertise in abuse, women’s issues, relationships, and
sexuality. She is the author of several nonfiction books, including
Loving Him without Losing You, Honor Your Anger, The Power of
Apology, and The Emotionally Abused Woman. Engel has
appeared on many national television shows, including Oprah,
Donahue, Ricki Lake, Sally Jessy Raphael, and others.