FIND HAPPINESS AND FULFILLMENT THROUGH — RATHER THAN DESPITE — YOUR DIFFERENCES
Dr. James Creighton has worked with couples for decades, facilitating communication and conflict resolution and teaching them the tools to build healthy, happy relationships. He has found that many couples start out believing they like the same things, see people the same way, and share a united take on the world. But inevitably differences crop up, and it can be profoundly discouraging to find that one’s partner sees a person, situation, or decision completely differently. Although many relationships flounder at this point, Creighton shows that this can actually be an opportunity to forge stronger ties. In
Loving through Your Differences, he draws on the latest research in cognitive science and developmental psychology to show how we invent our realities with our perceptual minds. He then provides clear, concrete tools for shifting our perceptions and reframing our responses. The result moves couples out of the fear and alienation of “your way or my way” and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an “our way.” As Creighton shows, this way of being together, based on the reality of individuality rather than the illusion of sameness, sets the stage for long-term excitement, discovery, and fulfillment.
Dr. James Creighton has worked with couples for decades, facilitating communication and conflict resolution and teaching them the tools to build healthy, happy relationships. He has found that many couples start out believing they like the same things, see people the same way, and share a united take on the world. But inevitably differences crop up, and it can be profoundly discouraging to find that one’s partner sees a person, situation, or decision completely differently. Although many relationships flounder at this point, Creighton shows that this can actually be an opportunity to forge stronger ties. In
Loving through Your Differences, he draws on the latest research in cognitive science and developmental psychology to show how we invent our realities with our perceptual minds. He then provides clear, concrete tools for shifting our perceptions and reframing our responses. The result moves couples out of the fear and alienation of “your way or my way” and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an “our way.” As Creighton shows, this way of being together, based on the reality of individuality rather than the illusion of sameness, sets the stage for long-term excitement, discovery, and fulfillment.
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Foreword (TK)
Part 1: OUR ROLE IN CREATING REALITY
Chapter 1: Whose Reality is Right?
Chapter 2: Making Sense
Chapter 3: Creating Reality
Chapter 4: Using Differences as Teachers
Part 2: SKILLS
Chapter 5: Response-Ability
Chapter 6: Responsible Communication
Chapter 7: Listening
Chapter 8: Escalation
Chapter 9: Mutual Problem Solving
Part 3: TOOLS/APPROACHES
Chapter 10: Conflicts over Values
Chapter 11: Reframing
Chapter 12: Reframing Your Life Story
Chapter 13: Self-Talk
Chapter 14: Who’s the Me in This Conflict?
Chapter 15: The Value of Being Different
Chapter 16: A Closing Comment
Appendix 1: When You Need Help
Notes
Acknowledgements
Index
About the AuthorОб авторе
In addition to working with couples,James L. Creighton, Ph D, has conducted communication trainings, mediations, and conflict-resolution processes for universities, public schools, the Job Corps, Fortune 500 corporations, and government entities. He lives in Kihei, Hawaii.
язык английский ● Формат EPUB ● страницы 200 ● ISBN 9781608685677 ● Размер файла 1.5 MB ● издатель New World Library ● Страна US ● опубликованный 2019 ● Загружаемые 24 месяцы ● валюта EUR ● Код товара 6806700 ● Защита от копирования Adobe DRM
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