Eve Eschner Hogan 
The EROS Equation 
A ‚Soul-ution‘ for Relationships

Based on the idea that it is our own response to a situation — rather than the situation itself — that creates a particular outcome,
The EROS Equation is a unique approach to improving relationships. Instead of focusing on difficult partners or problems, author and relationship adviser Eve Eschner Hogan enables us to uncover new and creative responses in ourselves using the EROS equation. As she explains in the introduction, Hogan developed this problem-solving tool through years of work with clients, colleagues, and in her own marriage. She named it the EROS equation because it can be written as Event + Response = Outcome and Solutions (E + R = O and S). Invocative of the Greek god of love, this empowering outlook leads to deeper self-knowledge and more harmonious relationships. Writing in accessible, short chapters, Hogan uses real-life examples to look at typical relationship issues, from daily annoyances to extramarital affairs. She highlights common responses that don’t work and applies the EROS equation to show us how our own wisdom, intuition, and creativity can reveal solutions.
The EROS Equation makes clear that by changing an unhelpful, habitual response that blocks understanding, we can create a loving and solution-oriented outcome.

Inhaltsverzeichnis

Introduction


EROS—The God of Love

Why Love Is Not Enough


Common Sense, Uncommon Knowledge

A Blueprint of the Human Being

Life Strategies that Don’t Work on Love

Powerful Relationship Principles


Just Because You Believe It, Doesn’t Mean It Is True

What Are Your Love Beliefs?

Believing Isn’t Attractive, Choices Are


Reawakening to Who You Are

The Golden Buddha

Self-Esteem, an Over-Used Phrase for an Under-Experienced Quality

Finding Your Power

A Prescription for Self-Strengthening

Resilience Training

Values—Guideposts to the Goal


Uncommon Knowledge

Learning to Appreciate the Ego

Commitment—The Ego Trigger

Being an Ego Magnet

Clearing the Blocks to Being Loved

Clearing the Blocks to Being Loving

Developing a Self-Talk Interpreter

Victim No More

The Beauty of Fear

What Do You Treasure?


The EROS Equation

What Is Your Target

Everyone Else and Everything External

Response—Ability

Outcome

Solutions

When the Grass Is Greener

Four Response Options

Negotiate

Resist What Is

Get Out

Acknowledge and Accept What Is

Step Into Creativity, Step Into Love


Five Essential Life and Love Skills

Remember Who You Are and What You Want

Self-Observe

Transcend the Ego Needs

Reconnect, Re-calibrate

Choose Aligned Actions


Creating a No Drama Zone

Stop Playing the Blame Game

Integrity Choices

Transforming Anger Into Love and Understanding

The Flag on the Mountain Top of Emotions

Letting Go of Resistance


Applying EROS to Dating


Applying EROS to Getting Married


Applying EROS to Chores


Applying EROS to Preferences


Applying EROS to Money


Applying EROS to Health


Applying EROS to Monogamy


Applying EROS to Sex


When the Equation Doesn’t Add Up

Managing Mental Health and Substance Abuse in Relationships


A Practice Makes You Stronger


The Power of the Moment


A Breath Away

Über den Autor

Eve Eschner Hogan is an inspirational speaker and author specializing in creating healthy relationships — in the workplace, the home, and the heart. She is the author of multiple books, including
Way of the Winding Path,
How to Love Your Marriage,
Virtual Foreplay, and
Intellectual Foreplay, and she is a relationship columnist for
Spirituality and Health Magazine. Hogan is also the Executive Director of the Divine Nature Alliance, a 501(c)3 public charity that runs The Sacred Garden on Maui and the Peace Starts Here Project. She is the owner of Heart Path Journeys, which offers personalized, private retreats on Maui, and the co-owner of Makena Coast Dive Charters. With a master’s degree in Confluent Education and a teaching credential, Hogan has served as a relationship adviser for newspapers, magazines, and websites for more than 15 years. A relationship coach for individuals, couples, families, and organizations, she lives in Maui, HI.

Jack Canfield is the coauthor of the best-selling
Chicken Soup for the Soul series. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.