Douglas K. Snyder & Kristina Coop Gordon 
Getting Past the Affair 
A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On–Together or Apart

‘How could my partner have done this?’ ‘What was my role?’ ‘Can this relationship be saved?’ Discovering that your partner has had an affair can feel like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, the emotional aftershocks can make it hard to be there for your family, go about your daily business, and think clearly about your options. Where can you turn for help? From award-winning couple therapists, this compassionate guide has already provided support and expert advice to tens of thousands of readers. Updated throughout, the second edition confronts the myriad challenges facing couples today. Drawing on the latest research, the authors share vivid stories of diverse partners struggling with infidelity in all its forms–sexual or emotional, in-person or online. Learn how to process what happened, cope with anger and mistrust, and map a way to move forward, whether separately or together.

 

Cuprins

Introduction

I. How Do We Stop Hurting?

1. What’s Happening to Us?

2. How Do We Get through the Day?

3. How Do We Talk with Each Other?

4. How Do We Deal with Others?

5. How Do We Care for Ourselves?

II. How Did This Happen?

6. Was Our Relationship to Blame?

7. Was It the World around Us?

8. How Could My Partner Have Done This?

9. What Was My Role?

10. How Do I Make Sense of It All?

III. How Can We Move Forward?

11. How Do I Get Past the Hurt?

12. Can This Relationship Be Saved?

13. What Lies Ahead?

Additional Resources

Index

Despre autor

Douglas K. Snyder, Ph D, is Professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at Texas A&M University, where he also served as Director of Clinical Training for 20 years. Dr. Snyder has engaged in clinical practice and training of couple therapists since the 1970s, and is a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). He is coauthor or coeditor of several books for mental health professionals and general readers. Dr. Snyder has served as editor of the
Clinician’s Research Digest and as associate editor of the
Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology and the
Journal of Family Psychology. He is a recipient of the Distinguished Contribution to Research in Family Therapy Award from AAMFT, the Distinguished Contribution to Family Psychology Award from Division 43 (Society for Couple and Family Psychology) of the American Psychological Association (APA), and the Distinguished Psychologist Award from Division 29 (Society for the Advancement of Psychotherapy) of APA.
 
Kristina Coop Gordon, Ph D, is Associate Dean of Academic Affairs and Engagement in the College of Education, Health, and Human Sciences at the University of Tennessee. She previously served as a College of Arts and Sciences Excellence Professor and Director of Clinical Training in the Department of Psychology. Dr Gordon has received university-level awards for both her scholarship and her teaching. She is a Fellow of the Society for Couple and Family Psychology, Division 43 of the the American Psychological Association, and served as President and Council Representative for that Division. She serves on the editorial boards of the
Journal of Family Psychology,
Family Process, and
Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice. In addition to
Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition (for general readers), Dr. Gordon is coauthor of
Helping Couples Get Past the Affair (for mental health professionals). She has a private practice specializing in couple therapy in Knoxville, Tennessee.  
 
Donald H. Baucom, Ph D, is Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at the University of North Carolina (UNC) at Chapel Hill, where he also served as Director of Clinical Training for more than a decade. Dr. Baucom is one of the originators of cognitive-behavioral couple therapy as applied to both relationship distress and individual difficulties within a relational context. He holds an endowed chair at UNC and has received national and university awards for his mentorship of students, as well as university-wide awards for undergraduate and graduate teaching. His several books include the coauthored
Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition (for general readers), and
Helping Couples Get Past the Affair (for mental health professionals). Dr. Baucom has a private couple therapy practice in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.