George MacDonald 
The Princess and the Goblin 

“We are all very anxious to be understood, and it is very hard not to be. But there is one thing much more necessary.’What is that, grandmother?’To understand other people.’Yes, grandmother. I must be fair — for if I’m not fair to other people, I’m not worth being understood myself. I see.” ― George Mac Donald,  The Princess and the Goblin