Rachel Safier & Wendy Roberts 
There Goes the Bride 
Making Up Your Mind, Calling it Off and Moving On

There Goes the Bride is your personal guide to calling off a
wedding– maybe your own! It walks the reader through the
reasons, logistics, and emotions associated with breaking an
engagement and provides down-to-earth advice, support, and
encouragement from women who have been there. Rachel Safier–
the widely recognized expert on the topics of cold feet and broken
engagements– addresses all your concerns, including figuring
out if it’s more than just cold feet, dealing with friends and
family who don’t understand, giving back the ring, and more. Filled
with stories from sixty-two ‘almost brides’ from twenty-five.
states and four countries who’ve been through this difficult
process themselves, There Goes the Bride offers comfort,
inspiration, practical advice, some tears, and quite a few laughs.

Table of Content

Preface.

Acknowledgments.

Meet the Almost Brides.

PART 1: Making Up Your Mind.

Chapter 1: Is This Just Cold Feet?

Chapter 2: Premarital Resources.

PART 2: Calling It Off.

Chapter 3: How We Called It Off.

Chapter 4: Saying It Out Loud.

Chapter 5: Getting Your Money Back (and Dealing with the
Ring).

Chapter 6: Why Marry in the First Place?

PART 3: Moving On.

Chapter 7: Finding Comfort, Finding Strength.

Chapter 8: Is It Grief When I Wish He Were Dead? Understanding
Grief, Anger, and All the Other Emotions.

Chapter 9: Getting More Help: When to See Your Doctor or a
Therapist.

Chapter 10: New Beginnings.

Epilogue.

RESOURCES.

Premarital Counseling.

Find Help Fast.

Breakup Movies.

Songs to Sing at the Top of Your Lungs.

Sayings to Get You Through the Day.

The Almost Brides.

The Almost Brides’ Survey.

Notes.

The Authors.

About the author

Rachel Safier is a journalist who has written for magazines,
television, and the Web. She broke off her own engagement two weeks
before her wedding day and has since become known on the popular
wedding Web site theknot.com as the expert on cold feet and broken
engagements. She is the founder of the web site
theregoesthebride.com.

Wendy Roberts, LCSW, has been counseling adults and
adolescents in individual, couple, and family psychotherapy for
twenty-five years.