Robert Kelsey 
What’s Stopping You? Being More Confident 
Why Smart People Can Lack Confidence and What You Can Do About It

A prescriptive, commonsense approach to self-confidence and
success

With his bestselling book, What’s Stopping You, Robert
Kelsey helped thousands of people conquer their fear of failure and
unlock their full potential in life. Now Robert is applying
his unique approach to the subject of confidence. According to
Robert, it’s not something that can simply be injected into
us through motivational exercises and positive thinking. What’s
Stopping You…Being More Confident? highlights the key
reasons why you might be lacking confidence in the first
place, what causes self-doubt or makes you feel less able than
others. Then we are shown how to turn this around, by
examining the traits that make someone confident.

* Follow-up to the ground-breaking bestseller, What’s
Stopping You?, with the same intelligent approach to
self-help

* A road map to help us break down the barriers that make us shy
away from achieving our full potential

* How to recognize what you’re good at, but also what
you’re not good at

* Includes tactics for maintaining self-assurance and learning
how to apply these in real-life practical situations

* Based on extensive research and personal experience

‘Everyone has moments of doubt – this practical and persoanl
book can help remove those demons and boost morale. I
recommend it strongly’

Luke Johnson, RSA Chairman, Financial Times columnist and
author of Start It Up!

‘This combination of searing honesty and genuine curiosity about
how our lives are shaped makes for compelling reading’

Fi Glover, multi-award winning braodcast journalist and BBC
radio presenter

‘An invaluable resource for anyone lacking confidence’

John Caunt, author of Boost Your Self-Esteem

表中的内容

Introduction 1

Part One – Explaining Poor Confidence 7

1 Scripts 9

2 Mindset 22

3 Reactions 34

4 The Journey 45

Part Two – The Alchemy of Confidence 57

5 Optimism and Resilience 59

6 Self-Efficacy and Talent 69

7 Courage and Extraversion 78

8 Trust and Judgement 87

Part Three – Achievement 97

9 Identity 99

10 Goals 110

11 The Plan 120

Part Four – Situations 133

12 Shyness 135

13 Developing Confidence at Work 147

14 Working with Others 157

15 Dating 170

Part Five – Barriers 179

16 Prejudice 181

17 Procrastination 188

18 Depression 194

19 Stress and Anxiety 202

20 Hubris 210

The Route to Confidence – in Seven Stages 221

What the Psychologists Say 224

Bibliography 233

About Robert Kelsey 237

Index 239

关于作者

Robert Kelsey is author of Capstone’s bestselling What’s Stopping You? exploring why smart people failed to reach their potential. He has gone on to sell over 64, 000 copies across three What’s Stopping You? titles.
Robert Kelsey is CEO of Moorgate Communications, a financial PR agency, and was previously CEO of Metrocube, a start-up incubator located in London’s fashionable ‘City-fringes’. He trained as a financial journalist before becoming an investment banker and a now an entrepreneur, running his successful PR agency.
Yet Kelsey remains and perennial outsider. From a rebellious childhood to an adulthood of pursuing a series of unsuitable careers, he has had a lifetime of failing to settle into any group activities, yet lacking the confidence, guile or know-how to profitably ‘rebel’. Kelsey has developed an enormous insight into both the root causes of alienation and the all-encompassing negative consequences.